Benny Blanco is revealing how he and Selena Gomez officially became a couple. On the 'Love Advice' episode of Benny Blanco, Lil Dicky, and Kristin Batalucco's Friends Keep Secrets podcast on Tuesday, October 6, the music producer recalled having the "what are we" conversation with Gomez, his now-wife, when they had just started dating in early 2023.
"And she said, 'Well, I'm going to New York, and if somebody asks me, 'Hey, what are you and Benny?' What am I supposed to say?" Blanco tried to pass the question back to her, but Gomez didn't budge. "Well, I'm asking you," she told him.
"And in that very moment I realised that she was my girlfriend," he recalled. "And I didn't really have an option.
She gave me the helpful nudge that I needed." After around six months of dating, Gomez finally confirmed her relationship to the rest of the world in December 2023. The couple announced their engagement exactly one year later, and they tied the knot in September 2025.
Gomez crashed Tuesday's podcast, although she stayed a silent spectator as the hosts took calls and gave relationship advice. During one call, Blanco revealed that one of the things that works in his own relationship is telling Gomez how beautiful she is everyday.
"And not because I'm just lying," he explained, but because "I look at her and I think she's so beautiful. So, if you see something, you tell them."
The candid revelation has since gone viral, with fans praising the couple's transparency regarding their early days. Blanco, known for his work in the music industry, has often credited Gomez for bringing stability to his life.
The podcast episode highlighted the importance of clear communication in modern relationships. By addressing the "what are we" question early on, the couple managed to avoid the ambiguity that often plagues new romances.
Gomez, who has been open about her personal growth over the years, seemed comfortable with the public discussion of their private milestones. Her presence on the podcast added a layer of intimacy to the conversation.
As the couple continues their journey together, their story serves as a reminder that sometimes, a direct question is all it takes to define a future. Their fans continue to follow their updates with great interest.
The episode concluded with the hosts thanking the couple for their time and for sharing such personal insights with their listeners, marking a memorable moment for the podcast series.